Man Refuses to Invite Brother’s Wife to Wedding, Claiming He Doesn’t Want ‘Drama,’ He Pulls the Funds in Retaliation

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    r/AITAH 15 hr. ago HeartFeltWriter AITA for refusing to financially support my brother's wedding after he said my wife wasn't welcome?
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    I (32M) have a younger brother (28M) who's getting married in a few months. We've always been close, but ever since I got married to my wife (30F) two years ago, there's been tension between them. My brother says my wife is "too opinionated" and "causes drama" because she called him out once for a sexist comment.
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    He's held a grudge ever since.
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    Now, here's the issue: my brother asked me to help pay for his wedding, which I agreed to, but recently told me my wife isn't invited because he wants a "drama-free" day. I told him that if my wife isn't welcome, then neither is my money.
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    To give a little more background to this, I am currently quite well off, while my brother decided to get back into education to study for his PhD. When I was studying for my PhD, my brother financially supported me and gave me a home to stay at.
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    Our parents are furious with me for "ruining his big day" and say I'm punishing him financially over a personal disagreement. My wife is upset but supportive, and now I'm torn because I don't want to be the reason my brother's wedding is a disaster.
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    AITA for not supporting my brother's wedding financially after he banned my wife from attending?
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    sweetiexlena • 15h ago • Your brother wants your cash but not your wife? Classic. If he can't handle family dynamics, he shouldn't be planning a wedding. Stand firm- money shouldn't come with conditions!
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    HeartFeltW... OP • 15h ago I've received two PM's asking what was the sexist thing my brother said. A few years ago, I had my brother and his friend round mine with my now wife. We were all talking about my wife, and she was talking
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    about how hard her work is (she's a nurse). My brother, for some reason, then told her that she doesn't know what hard work is and laughed.
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    I backed up my wife and told him that nursing is one of the most difficult jobs out there since it has such an emotional as well as physical toll.
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    He doubled down and started talking about construction and oil rig jobs being manly man man jobs and how they're so hard in comparison.
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    My wife then told him to stop being a bit of a misogynist and understand that just because women aren't majoratively in construction, that it isn't inherently more difficult and "manly" than nursing.
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    I saw her getting riled up, so I changed the subject.
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    Cute-Professio... • 15h ago And your parents have no problem with him excluding their daughter in law? They have no right to be furious with you, and your brother is an obtuse AH to think you'd fund something your wife was intentionally excluded
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    Radiant Casey • 15h ago • NTA. You are not the for withholding financial support after your brother excluded your wife. Your wife is a part of your life, and it's reasonable to expect her to be included in important family events.
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    BigNathaniel69.15h ago • NTA, your thought process is completely valid. If he wants you to pay for his wedding, then he can suck it up and invite your wife.
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    If your parents feel that bad about it, they're more than welcome to pay for it themselves! He's literally their child
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    Flirtatious_Tracy • 15h ago • NTA. It's a clear indication that he values his grudge over family relationships. Your refusal to financially support his wedding is a reasonable response to his unreasonable demand.
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    Wild_Lingonbe... • 14h ago • "I want a drama free wedding." immediately creates drama
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    VermicelliEaste... • 13h ago • too late for a drama-free event
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    Kisses4Kimmy • 14h ago • If your brother helped you during your schooling, I say just gift the money but don't go to the wedding.

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